Mother's Day is great, don't get me wrong! Motherhood has been a great experience for me. I have been truly blessed by the experience. This WWW is intended to encourage those of us who find ourselves sort of caught in that in between place-my heart wants to simply encourage your heart. Trudy.
Greetings Wonderful Woman! It’s Wednesday,
It is a beautiful day; please slow down to enjoy the simple beauty of the afternoon. If you are in the office purpose at least one break to take a short walk. Walk with your head up to look life in the eye. Greet one or two people, you do not have to know them but a smile and a hello does wonders for both of you. If you are at home, pull back a curtain or two to flood the room with sunshine. If you are really feeling adventurous step out to enjoy your porch or yard you will be amazed at the activity of life and growth that is happening. I know, I sound like a sound bite for the Hallmark Mother’s Day commercials and I would apologize but as I was enjoying a walk I was reflecting on Mother’s Day, moms, daughters, family and well…just take a break and celebrate who you are and all that God has done for you. Don’t forget to say thank you just like ‘ya mamma taught you! LOL.
We could talk about the Proverbs 31 woman or we could talk about her family and what they will most likely do for her this weekend. We could talk about the beautiful dresses, shoes and hats that will grace the pews of many churches and or brunch reservations because we want everyone to see the beauty and elegance of our Moms and Grandmothers. We could compare notes for the sumptuous meals we have planned to honor the Grand Dames of our families or the surprise dinners being planned at local restaurants. If you are planning any of those activities please enjoy every minute of the occasion. Laugh, hug, love and do it all again because your mother, your Grandmother whoever it was that influenced you to be the woman you are today deserves that and then some. But if you really want to know what will make her heart sing, consider the gift of time; quiet time. Take everything off your agenda and give your Shero the gift of time to talk, hang out, to really understand who she is today and yes to let her know who you are today. It is a time of refreshing because her wisdom will shed light on your life today. It is a time of growth because you will appreciate her journey enough to help you walk an easier path on your own journey. The time you invest in her will be received with such joy and excitement, something that will be remembered long after the dishes have been put away. The lingering aroma of your love will outlast the bouquet you had delivered. The glowing words of love in the cards will not compare to hearing “Thanks Mom, I love you.”
I understand that for many of us our mothers, grandmothers and other significant women in our lives are no longer here. I understand some of what you may be feeling; I am in this place too. On the one hand you appreciate what your children do for you. You burst with pride as you watch them grow and then later you are overwhelmed at the blessing your adult children are to you and those around them. You are doing for them what was done for you. You nurtured, led by example, they learned about life by watching you. Sometimes they learned from your mistakes other times your children mimicked what you were doing. Yet, there is that part of you that misses having that one person who understands you before you say a word. You miss your friend, your road partner and because of space and time sometimes your sparring partner! You miss Mom. By the time we get to Sunday we have been on a roller coaster ride of feelings, thoughts and emotions trying to find the balance. No, it is not exactly depression and it is not a sadness so much as it is a need to be quiet in an effort to slide through the day without an outburst of emotion that you cannot explain.
Wonderful Woman if this is you or you know someone trying to deal with this quandary be encouraged, you are not alone. You are not crazy. You are not selfish to feel this way. You are loved. You will make it through with grace. This is the perfect time to invest in you. Give yourself the gift of time. Spend some time thinking about your Mom and the glorious queens who have influenced you. Remember the nurturing, the lessons learned and realize that these women gave you the best they had at the time to prepare you for now. Honor them in some unique way that would make them laugh out loud and smile with pride. While you are reflecting, push yourself to go a little further to have a conversation with the One who loves you best. Thank Him for the time you had, and for their lessons (good and bad), please do not be in a hurry to leave that fellowship. Allow your Father to immerse you in His love as He shares with you more of His plan for your life. When you re-join the festivities of the weekend you will come back with a sense of peace, and with a sense of reinforced purpose.
Remember what Mom taught you about sharing? Grab the hand of another Wonderful Woman remind her that she is loved, she is valuable and the Kingdom has need of her gifts. Share your story, share in her victory.
It’s all ‘bout love,
Trudy